The Less You Speak The More You Will Hear

　　Being in the "people" business, it stands to reason that honing people skills regularly keeps us in the game. Just like a knife that becomes dull with use, people skills can always use a good sharpening. After all, even a dull knife can cut, but it's often a messy cut. (And frequently I end up cutting myself with that same dull knife...)Take, for instance, the people skill of "listening." I like to think I'm a good listener. Most of the time, I am. I hear well because I am HERE well. But, truth be told, that skill can stand some sharpening. I admit I'm guilty of answering emails while family members or office associates are talking to me. I'm guilty, too, of looking at my Blackberry every time it beeps and flashes and demands my attention, which it does every time I get an email or a notification. (Oooh! Someone else commented on one of my AR posts! Be right back.....) I've even been guilty of being inside my own head listening to THAT conversation instead of the one going on with me outside my noggin. Can you hear me?
　　Since being a good listener requires giving others undivided attention, it might be possible to spend all our time on listening to others and lose our ability to focus on our own needs. For instance, we might not want to listen because we might really need to answer those emails. We might not want to listen because maybe we had a bad day and need to decompress. (Or maybe we just want to get on AR and reply to those comments....)
　　I think that being a good listener is not just about HEARING but also involves being aware of our own needs and being able to express to someone that we might not be available for them at that particular moment. As good listeners we should make listening to our own needs a priority too. I know that when I am distracted but still trying to listen to someone I am really doing a disservice to both the person speaking to me AND myself. Both the other person's needs and my own needs deserve my undivided attention, and unfortunately we cannot multitask and effectively listen at the same time.
　　September is International People Skills Month so in honor of this, I'm going to practice better listening skills. When I'm listening, I'm going to be actively listening and in the moment with the speaker. And when I am unable to listen, I'm going to let the speaker know, so that when I am able to listen the speaker will have me, undivided.
　　So let me put down my Blackberry....(oh, wait...I just got another comment...Oooooh! I'm FEATURED!)....I'm sorry, what did you say?
　　I'm listening! Really.

Interpersonal skills is a heterogeneous topic

Interpersonal skills are a very heterogeneous subject, confined space, where only my personal experience with some simple list, omissions inevitable.
1 more encouragement and praise to others, try to avoid criticizing, blaming and complaining, do not force others to admit.
2. To learn to listen. Do not talk too much, try to let other people say.

3 If you want to join someone else's conversation, first find out what others are saying.
4. Keep talking until neutral and objective. Indicate their tendency to figure out the other side before the first real trend.
5 Note that the other's social habits and proper to be imitated.
6. Do not interrupt, correct, add other people's conversations.
7 people have difficulty, take the initiative to help support and encourage.
8 Do not be friends because the other side and not pay attention to etiquette.
9 people want to talk about as far as possible, teach him how to get what he wants.
Without cause, a man of inaction, even if seemingly Pan grow, it is pretty bleak, big eyes, but no God, but no white light skin, hair and more but no color, delicate facial features can not stop the inner emptiness, a beautiful face for the people not to respect. So, in a sense, men do not cause it means there is no beauty.
 It can conquer the world by the pretty woman, there is sort of pretty, cause half success, such as Yang, Wang Zhaojun; can a man with good looks if you can eat, that can do it in the past called the surface first, now called the duck, PR , popular hot drink natural to worry about, but who take Zhengyan Qiao him. Old Wu Yang Zhang Changzong small white face, got the upper hand when everyone Zhongxingpengyue like holding him, said he was "the face, such as peach," a losing ground as the dog feces, even the head did not keep.